Monthly Archives: December 2013

Nix Niches

If you are proud Lifestyle Blogger who refuses to be backed into a corner because of the ever growing revolution of niche blogs, share your love, your life, and your courage by linking up. My hope is to be able to find other Lifestyle Bloggers in an industry where we are becoming the minority and celebrate our blogs every Tuesday.

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rules

1. Follow my blog on Bloglovin’ or add me to your RSS reader to participate in the blog hops each week.

2. Grab the button and place it on your sidebar or link love page.

3. Stop by the blogs in the blog hop! The blog hop will not be successful if no one visits the other blogs! This is a great opportunity to say hi and support your fellow Lifestyle Bloggers!

4. Share the blog hop with other Lifestyle Bloggers!

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New Year and All that Hoorah

It’s interesting to me how anti-climactic the end of the year is when you’re not making an effort to celebrate the typical end of the year holidays. Most people reflect on their accomplishments or lack thereof as the year draws to an end and all I can really think of is how empty the house seems. Even with three people residing here, the lack of laughter, hell even crying is a constant reminder of the fact that time is not standing still and I am only getting older.

I could sit here and make a resolution to get pregnant but the truth is, that’s not really up to me or G-d as so many people like to say. G-d does not have a plan for me and even if he did, he’s a sadistic son-of-a-bitch and I’d rather not rely on him for anything. If I offended your religion, I won’t apologize because I’m offended when people think saying, “G-d has a plan for you.” is helpful. G-d can take his plan and shove it right up his ass for all I care. Rottenecards_9640813_8jmxfsqfz5

The fact that people seem to be okay with a G-d dictating their lives is something I’ll never understand. While I may not be able to control everything, this infertility bullshit being one of them, I’d like to think that for the most part, where I go, what I do, and how I end up is mostly up to me. I’d like to think others would feel the same but apparently that’s not the case. *facepalm*

In any event, diagnostic treatment resumes again next month with a replenished FSA1 and HRA2, none of which will cover treatments 100% but at least it’s a start. In the meantime, I’m looking for a job and I’ve set up a GoFund Me account in hopes that we can get a few donations to offset some of the cost of treatment.

Eventually, if I’m not able to find a job within the field I have the skills for, I’ll probably fall back to customer service or technical support because at least it’s an income. I’m not above nor will I ever be above making minimum wage. Did I ever consider that I’d have to start over, given all my experience? No, but money is money and you do what you have to do.

In any event, if you’d like to donate to help with our treatments, I would sincerely and truly appreciate it. If I was certain we’d be able to afford the costs with my return to work, believe me I wouldn’t ask but I’m a realistic individual; even with me working full-time, there is just no way that we can afford all of this, how I wish we could.

  1. Flexible spending account
  2. Health reimbursement account.

Reinstating the Links Manager Without Using a Plugin

I don’t know about anyone else but I was pretty annoyed when WordPress decided to remove the Links Manager from WordPress installations 3.5 and above. True, they offer a plugin you can install to bring it back but plugins slow down your website. In most cases I try to avoid them as much as possible.

php_code I started looking for solutions to bring the Links Manager back without utilizing the recommended plugin and luckily I was able to stumble upon a solution.

Now if you’re familiar with WordPress this process should be relatively easy for you, however if you’re not used to editing the templates in WordPress, make sure you follow the directions precisely to avoid any mishaps with your theme.

There are several ways to do this. If you’re familiar with text editors proceed with the following:

The first thing you want to do is find your functions.php file. Once you’ve located the file, open it up in a text editor like Notepad ++ or Dreamweaver.

If you’d rather not use a text editor, go to your WordPress Administrator Dashboard. Once there look for Appearance on the left hand side. Mouse-over Appearance until a sub-menu pops up, click on Editor.

Locate the functions.php file on the right hand side and click on to load the file in the text box in the center of the screen.

Once you’ve opened or loaded the functions.php file, go to the very bottom of the document and paste the following code into the file:

add_filter( 'pre_option_link_manager_enabled', '__return_true' );

Next if you’re using a text editor, you can save the file and upload it to your server, make sure you select “Yes” if you’re asked to overwrite the existing file.

If you’re editing the file in WordPress click on Update File.

Refresh your WordPress dashboard and you should see the Links menu on the left hand side.

Viola!

Nix Niches

If you are proud Lifestyle Blogger who refuses to be backed into a corner because of the ever growing revolution of niche blogs, share your love, your life, and your courage by linking up. My hope is to be able to find other Lifestyle Bloggers in an industry where we are becoming the minority and celebrate our blogs every Tuesday.

nixniches


rules

1. Follow my blog on Bloglovin’ or add me to your RSS reader to participate in the blog hops each week.

2. Grab the button and place it on your sidebar or link love page.

3. Stop by the blogs in the blog hop! The blog hop will not be successful if no one visits the other blogs! This is a great opportunity to say hi and support your fellow Lifestyle Bloggers!

4. Share the blog hop with other Lifestyle Bloggers!

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Out of Options

“If we end up doing IVF and we have enough embryos, I plan on transferring two.” I admitted this tonight, to a very shocked R. Even with a small increase in success for a pregnancy, I’m willing to risk it because with the procedure being so expensive AND with no help from our insurance I really don’t feel like we have much of an option.

Am I frustrated? Absolutely.

Do I want to risk the potential for complications or premies? No.

Can I afford to put all my eggs in one basket? No.

And I hate it.

I despise the options or rather lack of options we have but it is what it is.

To be honest, none of this has really settled in, mostly because we’re still in the diagnostic stage but I’m trying to get ready for the disappointment and the heartache I know will come.

I’d like to be optimistic and think that we’ll be the lucky few where it all works out with one treatment but I’m realistic and so far based off the stories I’ve read and the ones I’ve been told, it’s really not that easy, and it hurts. It hurts so badly and some days I just don’t want to try anymore. Some days I just want to say forget it and live with the fact that the universe doesn’t think I was meant to be a mom.

And then there are other days. Days when I feel like fighting is the only thing that makes sense. Days when I tell the Universe, “FUCK YOU!” and I know in my bones, in my heart that we will prevail.

But right now, right now? I’m feeling utterly hopeless and wishing it wasn’t so hard.

Right now I’m desperately wishing there was a little boy or girl, cuddled next to mommy and daddy who knows without a doubt that he or she is our whole world.

Right now I’m wondering why the world is so cruel and why I can’t be the one thing I’ve always wanted to be, a mom.