Monthly Archives: January 2014

Message Boards: Are They Dead?

I’ve frequented message boards since my early teens. In some ways it allowed me to escape my reality while also connecting with those trying to escape their own. It allowed me to form friendships, something I struggled with in real life, and it gave me the ability to express myself.

Now with the evolution of social media and websites like Facebook where you have the ability to create and maintain groups, message boards are no longer as prevalent. And even if you so happen to find a message board, you’ll notice very little activity as more and more people migrate their lives and posts to the Facebook medium.

Now, Facebook will never truly replace message boards because while it affords the ability to join groups based on a certain interests, unlike a message board where you can easily to go ONE location that covers numerous interests/topics, you’re forced instead to have to join multiple groups, making it harder to keep up with or invest in. Not only that but in my experience, with larger FB groups, it’s easy to get lost in the crowd, though that’s not to say the same isn’t true on message boards. message boards

I suppose the biggest difference between Facebook and a message board is customization and post styles. A message board affords the owners the ability to create themes specific to their members interest, whereas Facebook has a consistent look throughout. Members don’t have the ability to create signatures and the topics they discuss are limited to replies by the friends they have that have similar interests. Generally, this is true of message boards as well, but I’ve found that those who posts on message boards tend to have the same interests, broad or specific, allowing members to more easily connect. In addition, a simple image on Facebook suffices for a post and can generate tons of replies, where as on a message board, an image may not clearly deliver the message intended by the topic creator, more so there’s little value in posting just an image because its likely to generate little or no response.

So does this mean message boards no longer serve a purpose? To an extent, yes. It’s harder to generate interests when their are some many other avenues that people can go to to connect with others, BUT message boards still serve a purpose. If you’re looking for a single site where you can discuss multiple topics or hell, discuss topics that are a subset to an interest, then message boards are the way to go. If you value customization, organization, and the ability to make yourself stand out with signatures and snazzy avatars, then it’s likely you’ll enjoy message boards. Keep in mind, however, that while message boards can ensure diversity, it does come with a simple caveat that many tend to forget, a community is only as good as the members that are active. Unlike, Facebook where the need for activity is not truly necessary, message boards do require a certain commitment by its members.

So are message boards dead?

Overall, I wouldn’t say message boards are dead, I’d just say those who own them or are interested in being a part of them are failing to recognize that interaction is a necessary component. Unlike Facebook, where its members can post statuses that garner no replies, this is not true of a board. Without replies, members lose interest, and the board dies.

So the next time you think of joining a message board, remind yourself that your activity plays a crucial role in its success, because without it, the board is as good as dead.

Nix Niches: Lifestyle Blogger Link Up

If you are proud Lifestyle Blogger who refuses to be backed into a corner because of the ever growing revolution of niche blogs, share your love, your life, and your courage by linking up. My hope is to be able to find other Lifestyle Bloggers in an industry where we are becoming the minority and celebrate our blogs every Tuesday.

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Something Awesome This Way Come

For the past few weeks I have been keeping this under wraps as I didn’t want to jinx myself. It’s no secret that I’ve been looking for a job and while I had an offer with one company, that same afternoon I got a call from another company that I was particularly invested in.

Everything-Happens-For-A-Reason-002 After 3 interviews, a background check, and waiting on pins and needles for the results to come back, I heard back today and can expect to receive my new hire paperwork, including the offer letter in 3-5 days. I cannot even begin to express my excitement and while it means having to take phone calls for a year before I can apply for a Team Manager position, I’m still ecstatic at the offer!

Not only will this allow us to pay off our credit card bills but it also means we can start really saving for a down payment on a new house and finalize our decision to either stay in Arizona or move.

I’ve also done some digging online and found out that this company offers fertility coverage so this job will go a long way into helping us conceive. We’re hoping that we’ll be able to jump straight to IVF but we still have to come up with the funds to participate in the clinic’s shared risk program for some type of insurance should our first attempt fail.

Overall, I feel like things are starting to look up and I’m hopeful for what the future will hold. I’ve always been a believer that everything happens for a reason and getting the call to interview the afternoon after I received an offer for a different company is a sure sign that it’s true. Plus, it’s nice to know that I can still work from home, while significantly contributing to the household expenses. It’s been a long time since my pay check made me feel worthy and I am just so thankful that this company values its employees enough to recognize that what you’re paid does have an impact on the quality of your work and the type of employees you have.

My hope is to remain with this company and start a career as I’ve heard amazing things about their core values. I’m really looking forward to loving what I do again because it’s been some time since I’ve felt that.

Here’s to a fantastic new year.

Identity Crisis: A Childhood of Racial Shame

Despite the fact I was born in the mid 80’s and racism wasn’t as prevalent during those times, as a child I still faced it every day.

My sister and I had to walk to take a bus to school which meant waiting at the bus stop and dealing with the Mexican children who thought they were better than us because we were black. Add that to the fact that I was mixed and had a hard time identifying with either of my racial backgrounds, being happy with my racial and cultural background was quite difficult, so difficult in fact that most days I wished I was white.

Identity Crisis: Racial ShameIt’s true growing up during those times was significantly easier than what they were in the 70’s, but having to deal with kids throwing rocks at you because of what they perceived you were racially, made it difficult to be proud of my heritage.

It didn’t make it any easier to know that I just wasn’t black enough and I was considered ugly to my Asian relatives because my skin was too dark. As a result I spent the majority of childhood trying to fit in and desperately wanting to be accepted, even if it meant kissing ass or committing heinous acts because one of the “cool” kids told me I should.

Half of my childhood, I can say I don’t recall and I wonder if it’s due to the fact that my mind needs to repress memories that hurt too much to think about.

Now as an adult, while I can understand that as a child, mentality, I would never have been able to grasp that I was selling my soul and trading my dignity for a fleeting moment of bliss, I can’t help but be ashamed of who I was.

In some ways, I wish that I had been stronger and more courageous, but in other ways I know those trials helped me to be who I am today: strong, resilient, unwavering.

I can’t say that if I have children their trials will be any easier nor can I say that things will be different and the racism I faced will no longer exist. I can’t even promise that they won’t face the identity crisis and racial shame I experienced, but what I can say is that despite how they feel, what they think, or what they face, they are not alone.

I only wish there was someone who was around to make me feel the same.

Nix Niches: Lifestyle Blogger Link Up

If you are proud Lifestyle Blogger who refuses to be backed into a corner because of the ever growing revolution of niche blogs, share your love, your life, and your courage by linking up. My hope is to be able to find other Lifestyle Bloggers in an industry where we are becoming the minority and celebrate our blogs every Tuesday.

nixniches


rules

1. Follow my blog on Bloglovin’ or add me to your RSS reader to participate in the blog hops each week.

2. Grab the button and place it on your sidebar or link love page.

3. Stop by the blogs in the blog hop! The blog hop will not be successful if no one visits the other blogs! This is a great opportunity to say hi and support your fellow Lifestyle Bloggers!

4. Share the blog hop with other Lifestyle Bloggers!

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