Monthly Archives: February 2014

The Lucky One

Many men who meet me are instantly attracted to my no bullshit, honest attitude. I can troll just as easily as they can and they appreciate being able to have a female among them that is not easily offended or overly sensitive. A lot of men tell R he is lucky to have me but quite honestly when you get right down to the grit of it, I am the lucky one. love you

The Truth Is…

I am not an easy person to love.

I am stubborn, bullheaded, and uncompromising. I can be emotional, illogical, and irrational. I am, on my best days, my own worst enemy.

I have more flaws then I’d like to admit and even more idiosyncrasies that make caring about me, loving me, an impossible task, and yet despite all that R continues to see something worthy in me, something I doubt I will ever understand.

As with everyone, I have my fair share of bad days, though lately there have been more than fewer and far between. I struggle to find value in myself when despite the fact I’ve been married nearly a decade, friends who recently just got married are having children and seem to have direction in their life; yet here I sit, a full-time student at 28, no kids, no job (starts Monday), and no real way to find meaning beyond being a wife.

Lucky Stroke I love my husband and while there are times when being a wife is challenging, I do love being his wife. Still, while being a husband is certainly a part of him, and he is in the same boat with me in terms of being married nearly a decade and still not having kids, he is able to find direction in his work, while I sit here and whittle away.

And while I understand that having kids is not ultimately what will define me, many people don’t have them and seem to get on just fine, I recognize that it was one of the things early on that I knew would. So here I am freshly 28 wondering what’s left for me if kids are removed from the equation…

Him.

I am the lucky one.

A Year Older and A Group Giveaway

Last Friday, I went in and got my upper wisdom teeth removed. The procedure wasn’t bad, mostly because I was asleep but I’m sure it didn’t help the healing process when I went out on an extensive motorcycle ride, but the trip had been planned for a while so there was no backing out.

Despite the fact that I was a little more swollen longer than anticipated, the procedure and the aftermath wasn’t that bad. I suspect, however, if all 4 teeth were removed I’d be singing a different tune and I’d have likely skipped the motorcycle ride. Still, I suppose it could have been worse and I’m quite happy with the progress I’ve made since Friday.

Yesterday, I celebrated my birthday, though not really. Most who are close to me know that I don’t really make a big deal out of my birthdays because I just see it as another day. I was able to spend some time with R as he took the day off of work, but otherwise it was pretty mellow. I tried to get some school work done BUT the book I’m reading is terrible. All it has done is make me feel stupid and introduce complicated concepts far too early. As in, hey, you just learned this, and now how about you create this script and figure out what’s wrong with this one! So far my introduction to JavaScript has been less than ideal and as a result, I had to buy another book and beg Ana to give me some of the resources she used that helped her pass the certification. Right now, I’m feeling anything but confident but I’m hoping that the new resources will help catch me up and clarify some of the concepts.

I’ve been fairly absent the past few days, due to the surgery and some social activities but I did purchase a book on SEO to help me optimize my website. I keep reading that a niche will help but I just don’t foresee that I’ll ever truly be passionate about one area to consistently create content for it. Despite that, I am going to try to focus on a few specific topics such as beauty, geekery (programming, coding, and games), design, and perhaps photography. I’ll still obviously have posts about my everyday life, most especially our struggles with infertility, but I’d like to focus more on the topics I mentioned above.

Group Giveaway Event: $100 Amazon eGift Certificate

With that goal in mind, I’ve decided to put together a group giveaway. This is my first ever group giveaway but as I said, I’m trying to get a little more involved in the blog-o-sphere and expand the list of blogs I read.

Amazon Giveaway

Here are the details about the event:

  • The giveaway is for a $100 Amazon eGift Certificate.
  • The giveaway is being hosted by myself and sponsored via blogger participation.
  • Blogger contest: One participating blogger will also win a $100 Amazon eGift Certificate.
  • Event Dates: As soon as spots fill (estimated 04/01-04/30)
  • The event is open to U.S and international.
  • You are expected to promote the giveaway as if it were your own, at least 4 times a week.
  • The event is limited to 40 blogger participants.
  • Entry fee: $5 for two links

Co-Hosting spots are available for $8.00 which will include 3 links, blog name and link at the top of the post, and a back link.

If you are interested in joining as a blogger, sign up here.

If you’d like to co-host the event with me, sign up here.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask and please feel free to share this with other bloggers who may be interested.

Zutano.com Gift Card Giveaway

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Hosted By: Tales From A Southern Mom

Co Hosted By: Simply Southern Couponers, Mom Loves 2 Read and Chronically Content

Sponsored By: Zutano.com

A special thanks to all of the bloggers participating and helping promote this event! This giveaway could not be possible without all of them, so be sure to stop by and send them a thank you.

Bright, fun colors are paramount to this line. Zutano thrives on distinctive and enjoyable colors and prints to make their clothing really stand out from the pack. They boast “clothing as unique as your child”, and this reviewer feels they hit the mark. Read full review here.

Zutano was kind enough to sponsor a giveaway for our reader for a $75.00 gift card to be used at Zutano.com.

Giveaway Details:

February 17th – March 3rd at 11:59PM EST.

Open to US residents only. Must be 18+ to enter.

**How to Enter**

Enter using the Entry Form below. By entering you agree to abide by the Terms and Conditions listed on the Entry Form. All winning entries will be verified. Winner will receive an email from Tales From A Southern Mom and will have 48 hours to respond or a new winner will be chosen. Good Luck and thanks for entering.

Disclosure:GeekPowered.me did not receive any compensation for promoting this event. Sponsor is responsible for prize fulfillment. This giveaway is in no way sponsored, endorsed by, affiliated with, or associated with Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google or any other social media platform. If you have any questions please email Jennifer at talesfromasouthernmomof3@gmail{dot}com.

Valentine’s Day Flash Giveaway

Cheer Up Your Valentine's Day

Did you get what you wanted for Valentine’s Day? If no this is the giveaway for you! Enter to win and then you can get the Valentine’s Gift you really wanted! Or, if you are super nice use it to make someone else’s day. :)

I’m joining a group of amazing bloggers to bring you this fun giveaway! One lucky winner is going to get a $50 eGift Card of your choice!! What would you choose?

We are making it easy peasy to enter! Just use the form below.

Remember, this giveaway ends in 24 hours, at 11:59 pm on February 14! Tell your friends so they can enter, too!

Good Luck!

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Unexpressed Emotions

I’ve been out of sorts recently and I can feel myself withdrawing in an attempt to try to recharge from the energy that has been consumed in trying to navigate the weary waters of my emotions. I’m quite adept at being empathetic towards others which ends up taking its toll. Combine that with my innate ability to suppress my emotions and all motivation, drive, or desire evaporates into the air, as my mind and body fight to reinstate balance. Unexpressed Emotions

In short, I’m not very good with dealing with my emotions so when the wall that I so cleverly built starts to falter, I too suffer as I am overloaded with the things I choose not to feel. And while I understand this is likely not healthy, I’ve not yet had the luxury to deal with it, to fully express my emotions. I’ve always in some way or other been the rock; if I falter than so shall everyone else.

In an effort to distract myself, I’ve taking to catching up on TV shows and picking up new ones, more specifically, The Originals. In some ways, one of the main characters has helped me better understand why it is I don’t often let anyone too close. Despite his atrocious acts, I relate to Niklaus, and I wonder if that means I’m a psychopath or simply misunderstood. I suppose that will remain one of life’s mysteries.

Despite all of this, I am feeling cautiously optimistic, though if I am honest, stupidly optimistic is more of what comes to mind. Niklaus is not the only character I can relate to but also his brother, Elijah, who despite all the disappointments, betrayals, and sabotage continues to hope his brother can be redeemed, and I wonder if I am the same. The fool who continues to hope people can change and there is still meaning behind the word “love”.

I suppose, as with most things, time will tell.